An article by Richard Florida notes large disparities between the numbers of single men and single women in urban locations across the US. Let the conforming to already-existing gendered assumptions begin!
As you can see, if you are looking for a single man, he’s on the West Coast – if you are looking for single women, they’re on the East Coast. Of course, this says nothing about who they are, sexual orientation, and the like. Now, sure, I can go into the sociological implications of life course decision-making, job opportunities, gender differences and similarities. But really, I just want to say that if you are a straight woman in New York looking for a straight man, you’re kind of S.O.L. If you’re that same woman looking for a straight man in LA (though many more men in LA are gay than comparables elsewhere) or Dallas or Denver or Seattle, it must be you. If you are a straight man looking for a straight woman in NYC and not succeeding, you aren’t working hard enough.
Sorta explains how some of us win the match.com lottery. *self high-five*
Sigh.
Yes Davin, I assure you, that’s all about the math
Plus, if you’ll recall, an early intervention by yours truly that 4:20 culture is not a deal-breaker…
Jenn, I’m telling you: Crazy. Blind. Date. Why dip a toe in the water when you can jump in face-first?
This very thing came to mind when I saw Bethenney on “Real Housewives of NYC” begging to procreate with a guy who looked and acted like a turtle, and was divorced with two kids.
Turns out, he had a cushy Wall Street job he lost as a result of appearing on the show.
Not that Bethenney is any prize. But she must want a guy with money, so she has to beg turtles or do without.
Bethenney deserves her own ktel post, IMHO. I have many things to say about her, the turtle, her escape to Miami, and her relationship with her father, none of which will interest Peter’s readership.
ktel – this comment spins out in so many directions I don’t know where to start. Maybe with “when I saw Bethenney on ‘Real Housewives of NYC’”. I’m not a big watcher of the show, though of course I get the premise. Educate me. Living in New York has made me feel something icky, and my chair put her finger on it when she noted that this is a place where you are pushed to think of yourself as relatively poor, always needing more money. It makes me ick.
JL – we treat markets here like Bourdieu treats capital: real estate markets, financial markets, dating markets, cultural markets. ‘Peter’s readership’ is something like the 3 of you in this comment thread…This isn’t the show with the person who deals with 30 and 40something men who are hipster wannabes?
PL: please don’t confuse Real Housewives of New York City with Millionaire Matchmaker.
Hey, I’m a reader, too. But this conversation is now way beyond me. ‘Fixie of hipsters,’ though, is something I’m definitely going to be weaving in somewhere.
Yes, once the conversation turns to Bravo shows, it does become pretty esoteric.
Let’s keep it where it should be: to blame straight women in California who can’t find love for their own lack of success.
I discovered that I was putting an additional “e” in Bethenny’s name. She’s a bit grabby, though, so I think she wouldn’t mind.
I agree that an entire ktel post should be devoted to RHONYC. I will commence to work on it. I might even be able to work in “fixie of hipsters” in a discussion of that time the Countess went downtown (that sounds wrong) to see da indie rock show with her headband-adorned niece. I kept hoping it would turn all “After Hours” on her, but no.